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Grace Richardson, NCCA

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Pain Is Inevitable, Misery Is Optional!

Jan 6, 2023

Written By: Grace Richardson, Contributing Author

Contributing Authors at Reenergized Living are carefully selected because of their knowledge and expertise in bridging the gap between traditional and alternative medicine.

Pain Is Inevitable, Misery Is Optional!

I used to love celebrating the holidays and birthdays. My daughter, Joanne, was great at preparing successful events.  She was talented in that and she loved to celebrate everything and taught this love of celebration to my 6-year-old grandson, Ethan.

Grief, unless you have been through it, it’s hard to know how the person who experienced loss, trauma, and grief really feels.

If you’re a friend or family member of someone who has experienced a broken heart, the best option is to be present and be silent.  Most often, that is enough to comfort us.

Having lost my husband, Doug, and daughter, Joanne in September 2021, 4 days apart, my world was turned upside down.  The biggest supporters in my personal and business life were suddenly gone.  It was like my limbs were pulled apart one limb at a time.  But for God, I would not have had the wherewithal to stay on my feet and push forward.  That and the community and church family that God gifted me with.

It isn’t only my emotions I had to deal with, my appearance was very alarming.  I looked like I aged about 10 years, with wrinkles and extreme dryness.  Of course, I knew it was because my health had deteriorated.  Improper hydration and lack of sufficient nourishment.  Add stress and lack of proper sleep, I was a total mess internally and externally!

I immediately went back to what I knew best.  Aromatherapy and face reflexology have been staples in our lives.  My family rarely went to doctors.  Joanne and I, Doug and Ethan too, learned how to create aromatherapy blends to respond to day-to-day issues.

We successfully managed minor health concerns and prevented them from escalating.  It gave us comfort that we could restore ourselves and also help others do the same just by teaching them how to.

Aromatherapy is a holistic method using essential oils and carrier oils to create blends that respond to stomach aches, acne, pain, fatigue, sleeping issues, and many more.  Of course, the quality of the products is critical to usage and results.

Face Reflexology is the use of tools or the knuckles to stimulate reflex points on the face that wake up the nervous system and activate blood flow, lymphatic system, and collagen production.  Similar to foot and hand reflexology with one glaring difference and it’s the glowy skin that results from it after the face has been stimulated.

The “proof is in the pudding” as they say.  See my before and after pictures.

Grace Richardson before and after

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In August 2021, my husband, Doug, daughter, Joanne and I got Covid19.  Both Doug and Joanne developed respiratory issues that they felt would be relieved by going to the hospital.  Little did I know that they would not be returning home. Doug passed away on  September 8 and Joanne on September 12.

It was worse than a punch in the gut.  My heart was shredded.  I would have traded my life for my daughter's so her then 5 year old son could have his mom.  Doug and Joanne were my support system in life and business.  It felt like all my limbs were cut off one limb at a time! But for God....

The pain was excruciating.

I lost 20+ lbs.  I looked and felt horrible.  Sagging jowls, wrinkled skin... I had aged at least 10 years!  The loss of Doug and Joanne 4 days apart was more than I could bear and it showed. Seeing myself in the mirror scared me.  I had to turn my attention back to my health.  The grief caused havoc to my internal organs from lack of proper nutrition, hydration, extreme stress, lack of sleep, and consistent emotional distress.  I was in trouble.  Unless the internal and emotional issues are attended to first, anything I do externally will be temporary and may even be ineffective.

As a Certified Clinical Aromatherapist and Face Reflexologist, I had the tools to restore my health and ultimately my appearance.  I created aromatherapy blends and face reflexology points to address my internal and emotional issues.  Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional!

My success in restoring myself gave birth to my Beauty. After. Ashes. -Healing Gracefully Method. Today, I am focused on helping women who have experienced loss, trauma or grief, teaching them that there is life after devastation and the good news is it's in our very own hands and through our faith that God is real and He is faithful.

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